I found this list of 'rules' in an old magazine my sister gave me. Apparently they were written down in a high school home economics text book! It looked like an interesting thing to share so here it is! I've decided that since it was written during the 50's then none of it applies to me since I wasn't even alive at the time! It's a good thing these rules weren't made into laws because I'm quite certain I'd be given a life sentence in prison for breaking them! However, I can see where it wouldn't hurt me to learn a few of them and apply them in my life! I don't think I pull them all off, but a few of them I found interesting! Isn't it amazing how much things have changed in over 50 years?
- Have dinner ready: Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal on time. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him, and concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospects of a good meal are part of the warm welcome needed.
- Prepare yourself: Take 15 minutes to rest so you with be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh looking. He has been with a lot of work-weary people. Be a little fun and a little more interesting. His boring day may need a lift.
- Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives, gathering up school books, toys, paper, ect. Then run a dust cloth over the tables. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift, too.
- Prepare the children: Take a few minute to wash the children's hands and faces if they are small, comb their hair, and if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part.
- Minimize the noise: At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of washer, dryer, dishwasher or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet. Be happy to see him. Greet him with a smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.
- Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time.
- Don't greet him with complaints and problems.
- Don't complain if he's late for dinner. Perhaps his reason is something came up at work or on the way home.
- Help make him comfortable. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.
- Speak in a low and soothing voice.
- Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgement or integrity.
- A good wife always knows her place.
I can happily report that after showing this to my husband he told me he is perfectly happy and contented with his wife. And that's what it's all about. Whatever floats your boat and keeps your marriage alive. It will be different for us all. Marriage isn't about a list of rules but about syncing ourselves with each other until eventually we become one!
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Isn't that wonderful advice for a wife!? I've seen it a circulating a few times over the last few years, and I love it. Marriages would be so much better if women got instruction like this and made it their priority to bless their husbands. Thanks for re-posting it.
I read those rules somewhere before too, most of them can be applied to our family but the kids clothes being cleaned or changed before my husband arrival (not gonna happen)there is enough dirty clothes to wash here, no need to add more then one outfit per day per person !!!
and our little one usually greet their papa very loudly, and I know if LOVES hearing " Papa PAPA Papa your HOOOOOOME" :-)
I've seen this before. I actually laughed right out loud when I read it. It is so far from where I and my husband are. Like you said though, it's about what floats your boat and works in your marriage. So very true. Not someone's set of rules.
shay
LOL no way. Not here. Not for any other reason but that it just doesn't work for us! I admire and respect those who do take the time to make everything so neat and nice but it's not in my make up!
I love this! I think these are good goals, even if we often fall short. I know I love my husband-- or anyone-- the most when I am serving him. Putting the other person really is the key to a happy marriage.
Thank you so much for posting this! If you don't mind, I'd love to share it on my OFM blog. Have a great weekend! :-)
Of course. You are more than welcome to post it.
Have a great weekend,
tricia
I've read this before, too! I just had to laugh!! I think if I actually did all this, hubby would say, "Who are you and what have you done with my wife?"
Hi again. What I meant to say is that I like reading things that encourage me to be continually learning how I can honor my husband. But like you said in the post, that list is a bit out dated, and it would be crazy to think I have to do all those things anyway. Sorry--I didn't mean to sound like I actually do that list--far from it! :-)
I remember having a copy of this when I was in high school/college. I think I found it in a magazine. I've always remembered the one about freshening up for your husband before he comes home. I don't always do it, but I do try and sometimes I even put in a ribbon just for fun.
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